College remedial courses

I just came from a school council meeting where parents were furious because of low achievement test scores. These are the same people that put stickers on their cars saying their child is an A student. How can you love your child’s school one day and hate it the next? When they give our children good grades, they’re great but when they flunk standardized tests, our schools are bad?Read more...

Advice for a lifetime for college freshmen

Someone asked for advice to give a young person leaving the nest. It can be found in Shakespeare's Hamlet, Act I, Scene iii. Lord Polonius’s son, Laertes is going to France, but this applies even for a move across town...Read more...

Keep perspective on purpose of college

My daughter is headed for college in another state, yet I look at her and cannot believe she is ready to go away. She will come and visit on vacations, but if she is anything like many other children we know, once out of college she will want to continue to live on her own. I will find a way to let go with the understanding that she knows I love her and am always here for her. Is this what people call “empty nest”? I’ve read your column and wonder what advice do I give my baby as she leaves the nest.Read more...

Prospective med student can't rely on Dad's legacy

My daughter is a junior in college with a 2.6 GPA, and I would like her to begin studying for final exams early this year. Going into exams, she has low As and high Bs, which is much better than fighting Cs and Ds. This semester is a chance to raise her grade point average because she wants to attend medical school like her father. Unfortunately, she isn’t properly motivated because she believes her father’s connections and legacy will get her into med school. How do I convince her that she needs to prove herself instead of depending on her dad’s reputation?Read more...

Helping a college student develop goals

My son graduated from high school with a 3.5 grade point average. School came easy to him, but I wondered how he would do in college. Well, I was right to worry. His first year was abysmal; he finished the year with a 2.0 GPA. Even worse, he does not have any idea what he wants to do when he graduates. He doesn’t enjoy any of his classes and has changed majors three times. Currently he is “undecided,” and when I talk to him about “after college,” he speaks vaguely about law school. With his current grades, this goal is hopeless. I am afraid he is digging himself a hole that he will not be able to climb out of when he decides what to do with his life.Read more...