Don't rely on outdated intelligence tests

My first-grade son has difficulty finishing school assignments in the required time. He seems to know the answers, but just doesn’t finish in the same time as other children. His teacher allows him to bring some work home to finish, but his test grades are low because he isn’t able to get through them. Because his semester grades were low, his teacher suggested we have him tested – now my husband and I are in shock from the results. Our son was given the Weschler (Intelligence Scales for Children, or WISC) test and diagnosed with an extremely low IQ – we were told he was a “slow learner.” But this is not the child we know. Our son has always been able to figure out things that amaze us – he does things with his toys that are creative and extraordinary. What do we do? Read more...

A closer look at hyperactivity, attention problems

My 6-year-old son is medicated for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). While this helps somewhat at school, the battle begins once he gets home. His teacher says homework should take 15 -30 minutes. Many nights, after two hours of struggling to finish the assignment, I write a note saying we did as much as we could. His teacher suggests that we hold him back for “maturity.” Making the situation worse, he often argues and fights with his younger brother. This past holiday, we bought a second video game system to stop the fights, but they find other reasons to harass one another. Adding to the problems, my 4-year-old’s pre-school suggests that I have him tested for ADHD. What is going on? I refuse to have my 4 year old taking pills. Please help – before I am the one that needs medication.Read more...

Unparalyze the writing mind

My daughter is having a terrible time writing papers in her ninth grade class. The teacher gives clear instructions and provides a schedule detailing when each step is due. The process is broken down into manageable parts – the outline, note cards, first draft, second draft, and bibliography – but in spite of this, my daughter says she doesn’t know how to begin.

At a young age, my daughter loved writing her own prose and poetry and reading her work to others. Now she is paralyzed. Out of desperation, I completely wrote one paper for her. She received a 66 on that assignment, and since then, she has lost all confidence in me. I admit that I am insulted – as a lawyer I write all the time for my job. Now we are both angry. What should I do?
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Sleepy in school

My son calls himself a “night owl” to justify going out during the week or waiting until late at night to begin his schoolwork. This battle began in ninth grade, once he was able to drive. Is this true – are there people who can only work at night and do just as well with less sleep? My son barely gets three or four hours of sleep a night. His grades have slipped but he always has an excuse, saying that his teacher is unfair or doesn’t like him. After a while, these same excuses wear thin. What should I do?Read more...